What is a Sissy

What is a SissyI am often asked what makes a sissy. In my experience you cannot make a sissy. A sissy is born that way, it is like saying how do you make a homosexual or a lesbian, I truly believe that sissy is a form of sexuality. Over the past 20 years I have met many "sissys", they have run the full gauntlet from those who think wearing pink frilly panties makes them a sissy to those whose whole existence is consumed by thoughts and actions of sissyfiaction. In the latter group many are middle aged men that have spent their whole lives trying to deny what they are. Many are married family men who have hidden this huge part of their personalities from loved ones for many decades. I am lucky enough to have been assist some of these people in embracing and accepting their sissy persona and for some they have been able to make that side of themselves whole for the first time.Now I am not saying that my definition or observations are correct I am merely speaking from my own experience and preferences. After all in this wonderful liberated world where we live today we are all free to self identify with any gender we choose but I do believe that sissy should be part of the in LBGTQ . When I first joined this scene over 20 years ago things were not so simple, few accepted Transvestites let alone Transgenders and the sissy world was truly closeted. When I first dated a sissy in 1995 we were never welcome at TV venues or clubs and the whole thing was observed as being a little perverse. Back then, let alone in the decades before, the whole scene in London was fairly secretive, remember there was no internet, no chat rooms, no web sites devoted to our lifestyle choices all we had were seedy contact magazines and a small handful of clubs where we could meet on the most inconvenient nights of the week. Clubs such as The Tudor Lodge, Storms and even the bastion of TV London the Philbeach Hotel. Some of my generation look back on these as Halcyon days and I suppose in hindsight they were fun as it really was a secretive world and we all shared that hidden part of our lives and society. However in reality things are so much better and easier today, People now can be whatever they want, express themselves however they choose and in the trendy London "straight" circles having a trans friend is de rigueur, gay friends are so last season.Sorry I seem to have got off topic. Despite having had sissy tendencies all their lives many still require coaxing and encouragement to reach their full potential. As is quite common they wish to have the perception of giving up control and being "made" to do certain things or dress in a certain way. There are numerous ways to achieve this and it is dependent on the sissys personality and preferences. Over the years I have come across numerous triggers that will allow someone to fully express that side of themselves and as I say all are different. So now you have read some of my thoughts on the matter I am going to share with you some things sissys have sent me over the years. I do hope some of the following and hopefully some of what I have said above will resonate with some of you. After all we have to assume you are reading this as the title contained the word sissy....Anyway over to some of my friends comments and thoughts:Once your charade of feigned manhood has reached the end of the line and you accept that your can never be anything other than effeminate, limp-wristed queer, your daily routine will change dramatically.Instead of dressing in a sharp business suit each morning, you?ll find yourself wearing sheet lace top stockings almost 24/7 as you dress into your pretty pink satin and lace lingerie and prissy dresses before slipping into the stilettos which you will mince about in each day.You will find yourself carefully applying nail polish and makeup to create a pretty, feminine illusion to accompany your effeminate thoughts, feeling and persona.The appendage between your legs, which was once the centerpiece of your delusions manhood, is now securely and impotently locked away in a cage as a symbol of your abject emasculation.Each time you need to tuck it away into your prissy panties you are reminded of how far you?ve fallen; of the gap between the successful man you?d been expected from birth to grow into and the prissy faggot, living a life of effeminacy in girlie blithe so, that you?ve turned out to be.You know you must go through your day enduring sneers, derision, sarcastic smirks, insults. The kindest words and reactions you?ll experience will come in the form of condescension.By now you?ve probably learned to live with the daily deluge of shame. Some sissies even learn to embrace the shame and get off on it.Many sissies seem to think that the first time Bakırköy Escort they allow themselves to be penetrated by a man, as the lie there in their stockingsand girlie things, drowning in effeminacy, flooded with a man?s fluids inside them, that this is the point they have crossed the Rubicon; were they have passed the point of no return; where they have surrendered their manhood.The truth is that this, for many sissies is the point at which they first acknowledge what has been staring them in the face for a long, long time, but they?ve been in denial.It?s analogous to a chess game where you defeat has been inevitable from the earliest moves, but you refuse to recognise the inevitability of defeat until your opponent calls ?checkmate?.For most sissies, their emasculation has been a process of constant attrition from an early age - from that first indulgence of their ?curiosity? to try on stockings, pantyhose or women?s underwear?and possibly even earlier.As the sissy lies there in its stockings and women?s underwear, a man?s juices drooling from its sphincter which still aches, it is overwhelmed with shame, guilt and self loathing, pondering the points at which it may have turned back from its march towards faggotry and total emasculation.There was possibly no such point of no return. From that first time it sheathes a pair of stockings or pantyhose up its legs, feels the tight embrace around its chest, or the soft satin of some girlie panties on its hips, and wallows in the girlie sensuality, thoughts and feelings of the experience, it is gripped by a force inside it, from which it will never escape.It spends its life rationalizing, denying, lying (to itself as well as others) because it cannot accept the truth about itself - until, suddenly it is lying there in its girlie stuff and its stockings, banged up like a bitch, drowning in a man?s jizz, and it realises the charade is over for good.Many sissies are not naturally gay or attracted to men.They spend a lifetime rationalising to themselves, denying reality and deluding themselves.They start off thinking that their experimentation with women?s clothing is just an innocent curiosity.Then when they find themselves continuing to dress up in more and more girlie things, longer and more often they convince themselves that it?s just a phase that?ll go away once their married or have a long-term female partner.Of course that doesn?t happen.Once they?re married or in a relationship the temptation of femininity - the stockings and lingerie and skirts in high heels - becomes laying about even more irresistible.They begin to realise that they?re actually more interested in their wife?s or partners clothes than in her.Until now they?ve been lying to themselves. Now they?re lying to her as well.Sooner or later, for most of them, the relationship fails.Free to dress up more regularly they spend most of their private time mincing about in stockings or pantyhose, lingerie, heels, skirts wig - the whole kit and caboodle.The start wearing stockings and lingerie under their men?s outerwear.That of course is never enough. They want to be seen by others.Heart in mouth they tentatively start venturing out. Late night drives or walks. They start going into gay bars - maybe even straight bars. Perversely they find the stares; the whispers; the sniggers; the humiliation a turn on as much as the votes they girlie clothes they wear.Sooner on later many will find themselves on their stockinged knees humiliating themselves before another man with his manhood between their painted lips - just to satisfy their curiosity of course.Until one day they find themselves facedown of a bed in their stockings and heels and lingerie as another man - a real man breeds them; sodomises them; does them like a girl.Suddenly they realise they?re a fag. They?re devastated.They find the enjoy it physically but somehow the total surrender and intense humiliation of it feels right.this is where they belong.Many end up being owned by men.50 Rules for Sissies1. Sissies will always wear girl?s panties. The sissier the better?pink, lace, ruffles, bows, and ribbons are preferred. Sissies are not allowed to even own any male underwear whatsoever for any purpose, including doctor or gym visits.2. Sissies will always wear a minimum C-cup bra, padded, stuffed, or with breast forms, and will own a variety of bras?at least 5?of various colors?white, pink, black, red, nude. Sissies will own at least 7 matching pantie/bra sets for each day of the week.3. Sissies will wear pink or brightly colored tights, leotards, or leggings for workouts or exercise routines.4. Sissies will always sleep in girl?s lingerie?satin or silk nightgowns, babydolls, teddys, camisoles, slips, with Escort Bakırköy appropriate matching sexy panties.5. Sissies, when alone, will dress in full girlie mode, including complete makeup, wig, heels, garter, hose, dress/skirt/maid?s outfit, with toenails and fingernails polished, and chastity locked.6. Sissies will never have body hair, including: facial hair, leg hair, chest hair, back hair, genital hair, etc. Sissies will be totally and completely smooth all over. No hair below the eyebrows ever. If possible, sissies will get laser or electrolysis treatment to permanently remove all hair below the eyebrows.7. Sissies will have a personalized sissy mantra and will repeat their mantra for 10 minutes every day, 5 minutes in the morning after waking up, and 5 minutes at night before going to bed. Example mantras:: ?I will be a better sissy today,? ?Today is a great day to be a sissy,? ?I am a prissy, missy, kissy silly frilly pussy wussy sissy? ?I am a sissy and I wish I had a real pussy.?8. Sissies who are not wearing a chastity device will present a flat front by tucking their clitties between their legs, or wearing a gaffe or tight panties to chastise themselves in another way.9. Sissies will strive to complete themselves by finding a Master, Mistress, boyfriend, or sissy girlfriend with benefits who they can practice pleasing to the best of their ability.10. Sissies will take, or have taken, lots of pictures en femme, in panties, in lingerie, in chastity they can share.11. Sissies may have real girlfriends, but only if they can teach them to be like real sissy girls, so they can strive to look and behave as much like their real girlfriends as possible.12. Sissies will never touch or stimulate themselves sexually, unless they have explicit permission, or they do it in the manner of a girl. Sissies will be chastised to prevent erection, masturbation, or orgasm without permission. Permission will rarely, if ever, be granted.13. Sissies will take good care of their sissy pussies making them ready for use, by keeping them clean, smooth, and well lubricated. A hairy unclean sissy pussy is an abomination!14. Sissies will have a soft hair brush, such as a baby brush, to keep their hair or sissy wigs smooth, shiny, and presentable.15. Sissies will wear as many lovely pink girly things as possible, including jewelry?rings, bracelets, necklaces, earrings, anklets, collars, etc., shoes?high heel pumps, sandals, maryjanes, etc.16. Sissies will love and cherish their panties, bras, stockings, high heels and dresses and take good care of them, keeping them well laundered, pressed, and stored/hung with care.17. Sissies will make themselves presentable at all times, with makeup and perfume and the correct dress for every occasion18. Sissies will keep up with the latest fashions by studying the latest style magazines.19. Sissies will have an assortment of pink ribbons. bows, or clip-on flowers to wear in her hair or elsewhere.20. Sissies will be especially helpful to real girls and women in every way they can, and will perform a kind and helpful act for them every day.21. Sissies will be polite and courteous, use Ma'am and Sir, and will practice their curtsies every day.22. Sissies will accept the role of sissy maid when desired, and will clean the house, do the laundry and ironing, do the shopping, cook the dinner and make the house clean and presentable while wearing a sissy maid outfit.23. Sissies who are owned and live with their owner will get up before their owner, fix breakfast, prepare the bath or shower for their owner, and help them dress in the morning and get them ready for the day.24. Sissies who are owned and live with their owner will wait attentively for their owner to arrive home after work, after doing their workday chores and assignments, and will prepare a nice dinner, set the table, and help their owner relax and unwind from the hard day in whatever way their owner wishes, and, when the time comes, help them bathe and get properly dressed and ready for the night.25. Sissies who are owned and live with their owner will have no concerns other than to obey and make her Master/Mistress/Owner happy and content.26. Sissies who are owned and live with their owner will be on hand to help their owner with whatever attention her owner needs in the bedroom if and when her owner wishes it, including massage.27. Sissies will keep their girly sissy clitties properly covered, tucked, chastised, and out of sight unless requested otherwise.28. Sissies will be polite and cooperative to all guests and know how to properly talk, behave, and curtsey around guests.29. Sissies will tidy up after their owners and guests by picking up clothes from the bedroom floor and properly Bakırköy Escort Bayan folding them and storing them.30. Sissies will accept the role of sissy cuckold when desired, and will stand by attentively if requested while her owner engages in cuddling or love making, ready to fetch or help in any way desired.31. Sissies will clean, sanitize, and properly take care of all of her owner?s sexual stimulation toys, including dildos, plugs, vibrators, etc. Sissies will also be well trained and proficient in the use of such toys to bring pleasure to their owners.32. Sissies who are excitable will have the discipline not to cum in their panties while watching sexual activity, whether over the Internet, or in person without permission.33. Sissies will know how to properly operate a camera or audio/video recorder to capture her owner?s activities, whether sexual or otherwise.34. Sissies will not watch porn without permission, and only then the type of porn specified as permissable, such as gay porn or sissy training/hypnosis porn.35. Sissies will own at least 4 purses/clutches to carry on different occasions. In public, sissies will carry a purse/handbag at all times.36. Sissies will have a wide variety of sissy-related things in their handbag/purse such as: lipstick, gloss, eye shadow, eye liner, brow liner, concealer, foundation, condoms, mirror/compact, tissue, sissy sunglasses, hair clips, bows, ribbons, pantie liners/pads, tampons, sissy ID cards, girlie notepad with pink pen, phone with pink or glittery case, spare panties, overnight supplies like toothbrush, toothpaste, floss, mouthwash, mints such as peppermint or wintergreens, gift cards for girlie stores (Victoria Secrets, Forever 21, Charlotte Russe, Sephora, etc.),37. Sissies will have a sissy-girlie keychain for their keys and reward cards so it can be readily seen as such when handing it to a sales cashier for scanning.38. Sissies will train to be comfortable in a chastity device and will work to find the best inescapable and most restrictive device they can wear. The chastity device will require that sissies always sit to pee like a girl.39. Sissies will keep their toenails and fingernails polished/varnished at all times. Toenails are to be a girlie color such as pink, red, or lavender. Fingernails are preferred as girlie too, though they must as least have a coat of shiny clear polish.40. Sissies are expected to be good cooks and housekeepers and to keep themselves trained and educated on the latest techniques and trends. Sissies will wear a pretty sissy-girlie apron when cooking.41. Sissies will take voice lessons and practice talking like a sissy-girl with proper softness, pitch, tone, and inflection. Sissies are to never be loud or assertive, but soft, passive, and obedient.42. Sissies will wear an obvious sissy-girl watch (or bracelet with the word ?sissy? engraved on it).43. Sissies with smart phones will have an appropriate pink or glittery case along with an appropriate sissy-girl wallpaper and ring-tone for their phone.44. Sissies will take pride in having a sissy-girl bedroom appropriately decorated in pinks and reds and whites. Comforters, sheets, pillowcases, throws, etc. will be deliciously girlie so the sissie can curl up at night in her sissy cocoon.45. Sissies are not allowed to drink alcohol since they are liable to embarrass themselves, but they are allowed to have pink shirley temples or other non-alcohol girlie drinks with pink umbrellas.46. A sissies bathroom will be indistinguishable from a girly girl?s bathroom, with lots of pink and lavender things, and feminine soaps, deodorants, shampoos, conditioners, shower gels, bubble bath, brushes, makeup, and hair products. Sissies will have a large girly pink bath towel that they will wrap around their body covering their boobs like a girl when they get out of the tub or shower. Sissies will take girly bubble baths daily if possible.47. Sissies will subscribe to and read only girly magazines such as Cosmo, Vogue, and teen magazines to keep up on the latest trends in clothing, accessories, makeup, and lifestyles of girly girls.48. Sissies will be chaste and pussy-free, and since sissies are in chastity they will never engage in anything resembling manly sex. Sissies mouths and asses will be pussy substitutes for the pleasure of men (or women) who so desire them.49. Sissies possess only clitties, not cocks or dicks like manly men, and sissy pussies, not real pussies like real girls, so sissies will practice and perfect their oral mouth, tongue, and sissy pussy techniques to provide pleasure to real girls and real men when requested, but sissies are not to do anything sexual unless requested.50. Sissies manner, deportment, speech, and behavior will be girly and sissy at all times so there is no doubt about her being a real sissy and loving it.If you made it to the end well done, that was a lot of reading and to be frank if you got this far chances are you ARE a sissy. So best of luck with it and get out there and be the best sissy you can.